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- Figure out what your shy students are interested
in. You can ask them, use interest inventories, notice what
they wear (sports jerseys? T-shirts with dinosaurs on the
front?), have them write a book about themselves, bring
in pictures from home, and so on. Use the information you
learn as starting points for conversation or educational
activities.
- Assign them to work with other children in
the class who are more outgoing. This may help promote interaction
and new friendships.
- Capitalize on strengths. If a shy student
excels in math, have him or her tutor another child who
needs help in this area.
- Arrange desks or seats in such a way that
shy children are grouped with either some children they
know or children who are good at including others.
- Teach children how to join group activities.
For example, on the playground, prompt the child to ask
someone, "Can I play, too?"
- Give them a task to do that will encourage
moving around the room and interacting with others. Or,
give them something to do that will make them feel important,
such as erasing the blackboard or hanging up their work
on a bulletin board.
- Take time to check-in with shy students each
day. Engage them in conversation. If they are able to establish
a warm relationship with you, they may feel more secure
and able to take risks in the classroom.
- Avoid placing shy children in situations
that might be embarrassing or overly stressful for them.
- Teach children to deal with teasing. Give
them words to use to protect themselves ("Teasing is
not nice. I don’t like it when you tease. Please stop...")
and be prepared to intervene. Although some teasing is inevitable,
adopt a no-tolerance policy on bullying.
- Maintain contact with the parents. Ask what
the children are saying about school at home. Although a
child may be quiet in the classroom, he or she may speak
quite positively about school.
- Encourage parents to volunteer in the classroom
whenever possible. Having a parent visit the class, at least
in the primary grades, can be a source of pride for children.
- Keep in mind, though, that some of your shy
children may have shy parents. These parents may fare better
in the classroom if you have something structured prepared
for them to do. Something simple, such as cutting, would
allow a parent to observe without the pressure of talking.
Check it out ahead of time with the parent if you can.
- Find out what resources the school counselor
has. He or she may have books and games that can help promote
self-confidence and social skills.
- Watch for warning signs, such as: the child
never speaks or speaks only in a whisper, doesn’t use the
restroom, doesn’t eat lunch, appears sad and withdrawn much
of the time, looks visibly anxious if called upon, never
or rarely plays with others, looks down at the ground when
spoken to, complains of stomach aches or headaches, and
so on.
- If you have concerns, or are not noticing
progress, ask the parents to consider seeking a consultation
with a mental health professional.
Some of
these tips for teachers were adapted from the ERIC Digest
(Clearinghouse on Elementary and Early Childhood Education),
Working with Shy or Withdrawn Students, by Jere Brophy. ERIC
Digest reviews are funded by the Office of Educational Research
and Improvement of the U.S. Department of Education and are
in the public domain.
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