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Q: Tell me, how was it you got involved with
this project, AFRAID OF PEOPLE?
A: I'd been suffering from Social
Anxiety Disorder and it finally came to a climax for me
in 1997. At age 11, I'd started developing these feelings.
My case was a bit different, typically those who suffer from
the disorder believe they are being talked about or criticized
- when in reality they are not. In my case I was being criticized
and talked about, which made the problem even worse. With
AFRAID OF PEOPLE, I'm really hurting for these people;
I know what they've been through. This program will let people
who are suffering know that there is help out there. So many
[people] are unwilling to do anything about it because they
are embarrassed. It's amazing after 1997 and then with the
release of my book so many men came up to me to thank me for
writing about the disorder and for coming out about my disease.
This program is going to help even more.
Q: Why do you think AFRAID OF PEOPLE is
a good program for public television?
A: I don't think the networks would pay mind
and give it the attention it deserves. Post September 11th,
I've seen so many people looking for some help in so many
areas of their lives, this being one of them. Public television
is going to be surprised at the service they will be doing
for their viewers; nearly 7 million people suffer from some
form of social anxiety disorder. They may even have co-workers,
friends or loved ones who are suffering from this disorder
and don’t even know it.
It doesn't manifest itself like cancer... it’s
in your mind so it's not evident and can’t be easily diagnosed
- yet you are dying inside. But there finally is help and
there has been a big break in the understanding of what Social
Anxiety Disorder really is. The state of people's physical
health is so important in ridding the world of this disease.
Mental health is only now being recognized as just as important
to our survival, and this program will help people discover
valuable information.
Q: Was there anything you learned about Social
Anxiety Disorder during the narration of AFRAID OF PEOPLE
that you hadn't learned through therapy and research?
A: Some of the medical terms and what happens
in the brain [when people are suffering from an attack] were
some things I didn't know about. Also, I found it very interesting
that genetics can play a huge role. I have definitely seen
it creep up in my family, even in my parents. If you have
those tendencies, it could come at any time in your life.
The whole concept of the show is that medication and cognitive
therapy play important roles in recovery. It gives you a lift
up because this disorder is that debilitating. In fact, many
who suffer also deal with issues of alcohol abuse. Things
become a blackhole and it sucks you into it more and more.
Dr. Jerilyn Ross (Head of ADAA - Anxiety
Disorders Association of America) is the lady who started
me on my road to recovery. Being in show business, it was
embarrassing to come out with this disorder, which at the
time I didn't even know what it was called. I just thought
I was crazy. I can't even tell you how important it is to
know that you aren't alone and others have suffered and gotten
through it.
Q: In 1999 you wrote your autobiography Life
is Just What You Make It. My Story So Far, in which
you reveal that you suffer from Social Phobia, an extreme
fear of social and public situations. What was that experience
like for you after so many years of hiding your disorder?
A: Yes, 1999 was the icebreaker. The book really
gave me something to hide behind and was my initial entry
to disclose all of this. That alone was therapeutic but it
wasn't the only reason I wrote the book, it was just a chapter
I dedicated to discussing the phobia.
Q: What is your hope with AFRAID OF
PEOPLE? Why did you decide to narrate this program
in particular?
A: I have two wishes 1. I hope those suffering
from this disorder are willing to talk about it. That's the
first major task. 2. I hope that those who don't suffer from
die disorder will be educated about this phobia and won't
just say to those who do suffer, "just snap out of it."
This program can be the vehicle for those who suffer to gain
the freedom to talk about it and those who don't to understand
what this disorder is all about.
Q: Why do you think people just don't understand
this social phobia? Is it lack of knowledge?
A: Personally, I think it goes beyond lack of
knowledge. There is no rhyme or reason to this phobia and
this keeps people from understanding its severity. In my
case I was performing for most of my life and when I would
get anxious and try to share my feelings people would tell
me just to bite the bullet.
Q: How long were you suffering?
A: From age 11 to age 35 ... so for nearly 24
years I suffered in silence.
Q: Donny, I hope you don't mind my asking
this question, but are you 100% cured from your phobia?
A: To a large extent, that is not quite true.
Your mind is more in control of this disorder than anything
else. For instance, the other day it just hit me again, but
it went away very quickly because I knew how to deal with
it. If you can tell yourself that you're not dealing with
reality and walk through all the lessons you learn through
therapy, you get through it. It's all about learning how to
deal with realities versus fabrications in your mind. And
once you know how to deal with those, it passes as quickly
as it comes. Once you train yourself to deal with that, you
don't need the medication any longer, which is the point where
I am at. But it's a long difficult arduous project.
You know, there's a story in AFRAID OF PEOPLE
about a very little girl who has been attacked by this
disorder at a very early age. That's a huge step. This will
help teach other parents that it's not just physical abuse
but emotional abuse that is so dangerous for young children.
Loving a child between the ages of zero to six is key to how
they develop and grow as a person. Parents need to express
their love for their child; otherwise it can really mess up
the mind. Again, it goes back to the importance of good mental
health not just physical. I truly believe that if you are
mentally strong you can overcome physical disabilities.
My brother Alan is a perfect example - he suffers from MS
(Multiple Sclerosis) but has the greatest attitude. I was
just talking to him last night about this interview and the
AFRAID OF PEOPLE project and it was just so inspiring
to hear him talk. Through medication and positive mental well-being,
he's started to receive strength back in his hands.
For people like me suffering with these phobias
and disorders - strong mind - that's what this thing is all
about and that’s how you beat it!
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